Entrepreneurship with children: advice for entrepreneur mothers and fathers – part 2

Do you really have no time? I’m going to ask you to be really honest with yourself.

When you say “I do not have time to create my own business”, do not you really want to say “I prefer to dedicate the time I do have to do other things”?

When my children were small, frankly I did not have too much time. Rather the complete opposite.

I worked in my business at night , while they slept, because I had no choice. It was not easy, I was often exhausted, and maybe it was not the best job I have ever produced in my life. But while other dads and moms preferred to watch a television series, I was planting the seeds of my business. He wanted and could be an enterprising father .

And when I had a gap during the weekend because the grandparents had taken the children to the park, I took the opportunity to stay working in my business while other dads and moms preferred to go paddle or go shopping.

I am not judging anyone, nor do I pretend that nobody feels guilty, but sometimes , the problem is not the time required children but how we decide to use the hours that children leave us free (for few they are).

The saying goes that a grain does not make a barn, but it helps its companion; A couple of hours a week are not enough to build a business, but the sum of many hours does. Once again, it is the great power of small victories .

Guilty feeling
If you are a regular follower of the Online Marketing Academy , you know that both here on the blog and in our podcast of entrepreneurs and digital businesses I strongly emphasize that work and perseverance are two essential ingredients to create a profitable business.

As we have seen previously, this implies that entrepreneur mothers and parents must take advantage of every free moment – however small – to carry out their project. Any time is good to plan an epic content , interact with your users on social networks, answer e-mails or launch an affiliate marketing campaign .

The problem is that when you have small children, you will not have many of those free moments .

The normal thing is that when you have finally put the children in bed, you are so exhausted that the mere idea of turning on the computer and getting to work in your business is surreal .

Despite this, some entrepreneurs make the sacrifice and put their business before the physical and mental exhaustion of raising a family – working in their business until late at night or waking up earlier than usual – but, as a rule, this overwork ends up happening invoice .

Creating a business on the Internet is a long career and sacrificing hours of sleep – ahead or behind – is not usually sustainable in the medium and long term.

So, you know what happens?

Of course you know. The dads and the enterprising moms begin to sacrifice family time -watching a few hours here and others over there- to work on their project.

At the beginning it is usually a subtle movement … You start by making an escape to the laptop to write that urgent mail, or you just let the mind fly to another place while you help the child with the homework.

Little by little, the transfer of time between family and work begins to be greater . One fine day, you find yourself working on Saturday afternoon or Christmas day while your Holy Wife or Holy Husband has taken the children to the park. I know because I have done it.

So far, everything perfect, right?

There should not be any problem – because after all we have said that if you want to build an online business you will have to take advantage of the time – if it were not for the feeling of guilt .

And there you have it, my dear and faithful Reader. If you want to start, I guarantee that you will not miss obstacles. But the vast majority of those obstacles are inside you, and not outside.

Undertaking with children is hard. The enterprising parents do not have it easy, and involves additional challenges must learn to cope. But it can also be a competitive advantage.

Everything depends on the color of the glass with which one looks at it.…

Han Han, Man Who Is Famous for Telling the Truth

Who is Han Han and why is he so famous in China?

First of all, he is the most popular personal blogger in China (running a blog on Sina). Actually, in the game of numbers it automatically makes him the most read blogger in the world!

He is also a young writer who came to prominence at the age of 17 (today Han Han is 29 years old) when he wrote his first novel “Triple Door” which immediately became a bestseller in China. It was even more surprising taking in account that he twice failed end-of-year exams and quit the school.

Why Is Han Han So Popular?

Finally, besides literary career, Han Han is a professional racer. Indeed, he is a colorful figure but all these things together wouldn’t be enough to explain his immense popularity. What makes him the thought leader of his generation is his ability to tell the truth (i.e. “criticize the system”). In China, saying the truth in a way which will both convey a message and not land you in jail is a rare skill and Han Han has mastered it.

He himself referred to his fame in the following way:

Some people are beneficiaries of a flawed judicial system. Some are beneficiaries of a chaotic society. I just happen to have benefited from telling the truth.


In 2010 the TIME magazine listed Han Han among top 100 influential people in the world. Although not to the same degree as Liu Xiaobo’s Nobel Prize, this recognition irritated Chinese officialdom as well. China.org.cn published an article in which the author not only accused Han Han in lies but even compared him with the minister of Nazi propaganda Goebbels!

Han cannot distinguish between rumors and legitimate criticism. <…> Han does nothing but present the government as a bully, revealing his poor understanding and low moral standards. Han also cites old figures that have been retracted or denied. <…> People like Han are turning people against the government. <…> To Joseph Goebbels, the mastermind behind Nazi propaganda, lies became truth by being repeated thousands of times. Rumors, essentially lies, don’t become just the truth; they become more real than truth.

I am sure that at this point you would like to know what exactly Han Han is saying to be highly praised by ones and strongly criticized by others.

Below is the compilation of 10 Han Han’s quotes said by him on various occasions either in interviews or in his blog.

Ten quotes from Han Han

1. Following the death of Huang Ju – member of Politburo Standing Committee – Chinese TV channels broadcasted the funerals and the national flags were lowered to a half mast.

Han Han reacted:

It seems that the flag is never lowered for civilian matters, no matter how big.


Of course, we must be strict and scientific, and draw up a head-count. For example, major accidents that kill more than one hundred people could have flags lowered to half mast to pay respects. In our country, this number would definitely be set quite high, at least ten times higher than other less sophisticated countries — first, this would demonstrate that our half-mast flags are of finer quality than the half-masts of other countries, and second, according to current safety conditions for manufacturing and traffic, if the head-count is set too low, the national flag would probably never have a chance to go all the way up.

2. In 2007 and 2008 when China was preparing for Olympics, there was a number of incidents during which the human rights activists and supporters of Tibet tried to sabotage the Games. One such incident occurred when the Paralympian torchbearer Jin Jing was attacked in Paris by pro-Tibet protesters who tried to grab the torch from her hands.

In response, some Chinese suggested to boycott the French brand Carrefour whose management was rumored to support Dalai Lama.

This is what Han Han wrote about the boycotte:

Why is our patriotism so fragile and superficial? When others call us a mob, we curse them and behave aggressively. And then claim, “We are not a mob.” It’s like when somebody calls you an idiot, you hold up a big sign in front of his girlfriend’s dog, protesting that you are not stupid. Although this message would be received by that person, he would still believe that you are an idiot.

3. On February 9th, 2009 the headquarters of Chinese Central TV Channel (CCTV) caught fire following the unauthorized usage of fireworks. This event, however, was ignored by CCTV itself!

Han Han with his trademark wit noticed:

Our officials make big incidents appear insignificant, and hope the public will ignore them. It might not be a big deal to lose the valuable state property, since our taxpayers’ money is being wasted anyway. It either gets burned or eaten away [by government officials]. I just wish the construction workers and the firefighters won’t be injured and can go back home safely


As for CCTV, this is so hard to imagine, such an always truth-speaking media, how could it be hit by such a tragic event? The gods must have been blind.

4. Talking about the movie “The Founding of a Republic” depicting the ascendancy of Communists in China, Han Han wrote in his blog:

The Founding of a Republic is like a love story. It artistically recounts the story of an impoverished boy who was pursuing a rich family’s daughter. The Communist Party was the poor boy, the New China is the daughter waiting to be married, the KMT is the fiancé and all those democratic parties and independents are the daughter’s friends. The boy’s secret to success is to have dreams, brag about future, relentlessly network and make many empty promises. Of course, being unafraid to fight is the most important of all. At last, he successfully married the New China. Apparently, the life after this marriage is not much different than the life after your marriage.

Have you met your promises you made when you were dating?

5. In the interview to Asia Weekly Han Han explained his attitude to motherland:

We should differentiate motherland and mother. Some always said to me that no matter if what I said was right or wrong, I can’t ignore the major matters of principle, and the overall national interest is a major matter of principle. I think this is too narrow. I hope that the aliens suddenly come invade the earth, and only then can they realize it belongs to human beings, not the nation. … The overall national interest and motherland are most deeply ingrained in our education. But many people have vague concepts of them, and they tie the nation and political regime together. This doesn’t matter, and it takes time for them to figure it out. When you realize you’re very poor, you can’t afford a house and you can’t afford anything; when you realize some evil people are living a high life; when you turn to suicide and they demand a fee to get your body out of the water, I believe your spirit of the deceased will figure out a lot of things eventually.

6. In the beginning of 2010 Google had to leave mainland China. It left Chinese internet users with less opportunities to find uncensored information. Han Han , however, doubted whether most Chinese would feel the loss:

Do Chinese people seek out dangerous universal ideals? Chinese people seek them, but they seek them at their convenience. To a lot of Chinese people, the value of seeking such things is not nearly as high as seeking an apartment building or an online game to play. Because everyone’s life is so high pressure, they don’t have any ideals. A mouthful of dirty rice is enough. There’s no big difference between eating it while kneeling or eating it while standing up. Perhaps Google thought that freedom, truth, justice, and other such things would mean a lot to a large portion of Chinese netizens. But in reality, these things are nothing compared to a finding a 100 RMB bill on the street.

7. In another blog post Han Han referred to his celebrity status saying that many people who suffered from injustice ask him to write about their misfortunes hoping to draw the attention of media.

I believe that even if I write it for you, it won’t get that much attention from the traditional media. <…> Most of the letters [I have received] are about so-and-so housing project in which the quality of apartments is very poor, or there is a trash station or power station next to it; many of the letters are about forced demolitions. If you experienced a demolition, that’s not news. That’s life. If you did not burn yourself into ashes., if you can still receive and send mail, and all your family members are still alive, that’s the definition of a happy life. You ought to thank the State for it.

8. In March 2010 a mentally-unstable man stabbed 8 kids to death in primary school in Fujian province. More copy cat cases of attacks in schools and kindergartens followed in the next few months causing nationwide panic.

Han Han’s fans waited for what he would say on the topic.

I don’t want to investigate the social reasons for these incidents. I just want to tell everybody, right here, that when the story of a person breaking into a kindergarten to slash up 32 children can’t become news, you have all been slashed as well. Not even one paper can report on this, because a few hundred kilometers away a grand meeting is being held, and hundreds of millions of fireworks will be released, while at the same time, in your old hometown of Taizhou, they want to hold the International Tourism Festival, the trade fair, and the OCT opening ceremony—those “three blessed events.”

Maybe, in the eyes of all those old farts, you are killjoys, intent on spoiling the big party.

9. Han Han speaks out not only about domestic affairs. In the wake of recent events in Arabic countries he had something to say about the situation in Libya.

China voted once to impose sanctions, and abstained in the vote to establish a no-fly zone, how wonderful. Now, today, people won’t stop fighting over Gaddafi, and of course they have split into two camps: one says Gaddafi is completely evil, a corrupt tyrant who slaughters civilian and blows up airliners and ought to be obliteration by the Coalition. Then there’s the other camp which says these are Libya’s internal affairs and other countries should not interfere, that Western countries either just want to get some oil out of Libya or take the focus off their own internal conflicts, that they have ulterior motives.

So when friends ask for my view, I say, my view is very simple: dictators have no internal affairs, and slaughterers ought to be invaded and eliminated.

10. At this point you might guess Han Han’s reaction to the Wenzhou collision of high-speed trains which claimed 40 lives but wasn’t properly reported by central newspapers.

Every now and then, there’s an accident. The top leaders all show how worried they are. We make someone available to answer journalists’ questions. First we say we’ll give the victims 170,000 kuai apiece. Then we say we’ll give them 500,000. We fire a buddy of ours. We’ve done all that, and you still want to nitpick? How could you all be so close-minded? You’re not thinking of the big picture! Why do you want us to apologize when we haven’t done anything wrong? It’s the price of development.

Do Chinese Officials Really Know the Theories of Marxism?

The recent revolt of Chinese villagers from Wukan was that rare incident in which Chinese government agreed to make recessions.

In these circumstances there is little doubt that the ruling party will do everything to tighten its grip on the power. One of such measures is the new regulation for Sina Weibo (Chinese microblogging service). This regulation requires from internet users posting on Weibo to register under their real names. The official CCP newspaper Global Times calls it “a step on the right path”.

It argues that anonymity of posters raises the risk of spreading irresponsible rumors and endangers the social stability.

“… anonymity resulted in widespread irresponsible remarks, served as soil and air for rumors and encouraged fake online personas who manipulated Web opinions.”

Short course of Marxism for Chinese officials

In relation to this quote it’s interesting to note that these sentiments contradict the views of Karl Marx on anonymity of the press.

The forefather of socialism, Marx, once incisively pointed out that anonymity of expression in the media is a form of public opinion transmission in society. He said: ”As long as the newspaper press was anonymous, it appeared as the organ of a numberless and nameless public opinion; it was the third power in the state.”

Even more funny was the reaction to Wukan events of Shanwei Municipal Party Secretary Zheng Yanxiong. He complained that it is increasingly difficult to control people:

Right now there is only one group of people, who feel each year is harder than the last. Who are they? Those who are government cadres, including me. The Municipal Party Secretaries in the past were never this tired having to handle everything. Every day, our powers become smaller than the day before, the methods available to us less and less, our responsibilities are greater and greater, while the ordinary common people want more and more, getting smarter every day, becoming more and more difficult to manage by the day.

Besides being an easy target for mocking, this speech hints that this specific “cadre” is ignorant of Marxist-Leninist theory :-) . I have no doubt that the founders of Marxism would label Zheng Yanxiong’s words as anti-revolutionary and reactionary (that is, representing the ruling class unwilling to change the status quo).

After reading them I immediately recalled the famous “three conditions for social revolution” outlined by Lenin in 1920 (yup, as someone who grew up in the former Soviet Union I had to read Lenin’s works in school).

“What are the symptoms of a revolutionary situation? We shall <…> indicate the following three major symptoms: (1) when it is impossible for the ruling classes to maintain their rule without any change; when there is a crisis, in one form or another, among the “upper classes” <…>. For a revolution to take place, it is usually insufficient for “the lower classes not to want” to live in the old way; it is also necessary that “the upper classes should be unable” to live in the old way; (2) when the suffering and want of the oppressed classes have grown more acute than usual; (3) when, as a consequence of the above causes, there is a considerable increase in the activity of the masses…”

Hmm… Isn’t it exactly what Zheng Yanxiong complains about? The cadres ( read “upper classes”) are in crisis and find it more difficult to maintain their rule in the old ways; suffering of Chinese villagers, migrant workers (“lower classes”) increases (?); and definitely the activity of the masses is on the rise.

Yes. Chinese officialdom has all the reasons to be worried. Especially if they recall the words of another theorist of communism, Mao Zedong:

“Marxism comprises many principles, but in the final analysis they can all be brought back to a single sentence: it is right to rebel against the reactionaries.”

Christmas Is Sad for Shengnv and Shengnan

Have you heard about “shengnv”? This is the name for 30 plus single Chinese females whose prospects to get married every year are quickly decreasing no matter how well-educated and good-looking they are.

Today, I for the first time encountered a similar word referring to single Chinese guys – “shengnan”.

Here is the story (loosely translated from Chinese) about the hardships endured by shengnv and shengnan during the holiday periods when they have family reunions.

Christmas as a Dating Marathon for Shengnv and Shengnan

It’s Christmas. Seeing how other couples celebrate the holiday together, many shengnan and shengnv flocked on forums and Weibo complaining about their misfortunes. Especially frustrated felt young people whose parents (relatives, friends) organized for them blind dates and turned their Christmas into “Dating Festival”.

“Tomorrow is Christmas, what are your plans?” 29 years old Ding Kui was caught by  surprise when his mother called and suggested to spend together this foreign festival “I and your dad are on the way to Hangzhou. We will go to meet a girl tomorrow.”

Ding works in IT company in Hangzhou. He hasn’t dated anyone since he broke up with his ex-girlfriend 6 years ago. Now, every time when he goes home for Chinese New Year, his parents nag: “Your classmate got married; your friend gave birth to a boy.” Until recently Ding rejected all blind dates arranged by his parents. But this time they found the way to enforce their arrangements (by going to Hangzhou). “I agreed to that date but it turned out to be 6 dates instead!”

Ding’s parents made thorough preparations in advance and in 2 days their son had different dates on lunch, dinner and midnight.

“These blind dates felt like some kind of trading. Each side would showcase its products, make comparisons and if the values are more or less the same – they exchange.”

Unlike Ding, his parents were very excited and after each girl would ask him thousands of questions.  For him, however, it was long and tiresome Christmas he would like to forget.

“l understand you very well” replied some shengnv on forum  “For me each holiday becomes the festival of blind dates. I was blind-dated on Spring Festival, Dragon Boat Festival, National Holiday and now even on Christmas. I already have phobia for holidays!”


Returning to the definition of “shengnv” and “shengnan” it’s interesting to note that the second word (used for single males) is relatively new.